Becoming More Self-Confident

by Dorota Swierkowska 10/27/2019

Many people define self-confidence as the feeling of trust in your own abilities and judgment. While that may be true, it doesn’t really describe the progressive continuum in developing confidence in yourself. That means, you may not be confident in one area, but gradually are becoming more confident as you go through the process of trying, failing, tweaking, trying again, succeeding a little bit, etc. Confidence in yourself is not a yes/no, on/off deal.

It’s a feeling

Some days you feel more confident, others you don’t even if you’ve felt confident in that area in the past. Many things can contribute to how you’re feeling about succeeding in one area. If you’re ill or under the weather, your confidence may ebb. If your skin broke out or your hair isn’t cooperating, that might dent your confidence. But, sometimes it’s just that you haven’t done something recently that you’ve done well at in the past. For most people, the challenge isn’t in trying something for the first time. It’s working it a second time and failing after they’ve already succeeded to some degree. They don’t want to not live up to themselves.

Talking down to yourself promotes this feeling. The only way around this is to step out and do it. Of course, if you fall flat on your face, you may not want to do it again, but really, failing gives you an opportunity to make adjustments and improvements.

Who’s in charge?

The challenge is that your feelings aren’t always controlled by you. Sometimes they’re controlled by your gut microbes. “What?” you say. Bugs? Well, yes, the bacterium that lives in your gut. The growing body of evidence says that the feel-good hormones in your body like serotonin and dopamine. That means if your gut flora is not healthy, you may feel less confident.If confidence eludes you even though you know you can do it, perhaps you should work on a gut-friendly diet.

Stop over-training

When you over-train a muscle, it ends up sprained or strained and needs time to heal. When you over-train your psyche, you fill your mind with so much information that you overwhelm yourself. Don’t think you have to do it all or try it all at once. Instead, try things the way a baby does. A little at a time, a step up, a fallback—do that until you know you can take that second step. If you’re always a “no” person, try to say “yes” every third time. If you’re a “yes” person and therefore get taken advantage of, practice saying “no” until you can say it firmly.

If one of the things you’re not confident about is buying a home, don’t try to do it on your own. Utilize the expertise and experience of your professional real estate agent.

About the Author
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Dorota Swierkowska

I am happy to help you find the home of your dreams! 

A little bit of my background. I speak fluent Polish. I love biking and enjoying the many wonderful things Sarasota has to offer it's residents. 

So prior to joining Better Homes & Gardens Atchley, I was a Real Estate professional in the Chicago area for over 20 years specializing in helping sellers, buyers, builders and investors to achieve their real estate needs based on their specific lifestyle desires and needs. 

I also owned my own construction company that was involved in building condos, homes, as well as condo conversions and remodeling. What that has taught me is to help my buyers see the opportunities in what can be changed.

I utilize all this expertise to benefit my clients.  

My degree in nursing helps to compliment my real estate career in that my passion is to serve people with compassion and understanding of their needs. 

Whether my clients are looking for their dream home, vacation home, or investment, inland or on the waterfront, I use the best sources and tools to achieve the highest results for them. 

I have done it all!

I'm happy to share with you what a few of my recent clients have said about me.

 Very professional and responsive. Excellent result. She was always available to answer questions and provide a recommendation from day one. She was very helpful in showing us exactly what we were looking for to make a decision. Dorota is excellent to work with. She is professional and devotes as much time as it takes to answer all of your questions. She answers phone calls almost immediately. THANK YOU DOROTA  

We moved to Sarasota last year. As we were new to the area we were looking for help of experienced real estate professional to help us find and buy our dream house. We were very lucky to have a wonderful agent Dorota Swierkowska who helped us with that and guided us/assisted through the whole purchase process. Everything worked as a charm and it has been already almost a year that we are enjoying living in our dream house. Thank you very much Dorota for all your help! We highly recommend Dorota services to anybody looking for/or selling a house. We are sure you will be impressed with service and knowledge she will provide you with!